I remember
listening to Louise Hay once, the lady who made us aware of the mental reasons
behind our illnesses and how to heal through affirmations, how to heal by being
aware of and by changing our thinking.
She had said that all teachers and healers share the same information,
because there can only be one true information.
One true path. We all share the
parts of the path that we are able to see and the methods that help us stay on
track.
Yet,
listening to some teachers make more sense.
Some of the healing methods work better on us. I had the chance to meet some exceptional
teachers over the years. Some were exceptional
yet I did not feel like their path was fit for me. I learned through time that it is important
to expose myself to new approaches, but also always tostay with which feels fit
both for my mind and my heart.
...
With every
new student, with each new client I find myself asking what I really do believe
in when it comes to illness and healing.
I work with many people who have serious health issues, but there are as
many if not more people who seem to have many blessings in their lives, but are
still not happy, very discontent with their lives.
In the
first years that worked, I had more people come to me who were really ill and
were looking ways to improve their lives.
Later on, more and more people started to come to me to change their
lives because they did not feel they were headed in a positive direction. It is hopeful to see that people are looking
for ways to change their lives before they make themselves sick. It is tough and wonderful to be proactive in
such a way. I was not one of them. I was a part of the former group.
Yes, I am a
strong believer of the idea that if we do look into the daily problems in our
lives, we will eventually make ourselves sick.
Our subconscious will try to bring our problems in our consciousness by
a difficult method that works - through illness.
If we are
proactive, the process of being aware is
faster and easier. But sometimes life
literally knocks us out, to shake us, to awaken us, to make us change. As a person who has had a tough wake up call,
I can say that I admire those you are courageous enough to work on themselves
before they really have to.
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So what do
I do? What helps us to be happier and
healthier in life? One of the important
aspects is to unload the “negative” feelings as they arise. Our spouse shouts at us, or scolds us for a
reason – whether he or she has the right or not is another issue – and we want to
reply back, however because kids are around, because the mother and
father-in-law is around, because you are afraid things will get worse, you stay
quiet. You “swallow” the words as we say
it in Turkish. May be you have done the
right thing, but the feelings of anger, disappointment, maybe of resentment are
there. You have not let them out. In order to stay healthy emotionally,
mentally and physically, we need to let out these feels that do not feed
us.
One option is to speak up and let
the other person know, but this is not always easy or possible. We are very unprepared for conflict
resolution. I wish and pray that
conflict resolution one day will be a part of the education as a basic life
skill. So, for many people telling how
we feel when we are feeling it is not easy.
However, we have to find a way to let that negative energy out. Unless we release it or clear it, it is hard
to feel another emotion.
Listening
to music and physical movement such as walking and dancing seems to create a
means to clear the energy. Another
method that works very effectively at releasing negative feelings is EFT,
Emotional Freedom Technique.
EFT is a
technique that is used best to clear negative emotions, emotional residues of
past unpleasant events or traumas. As
some of you might know, in EFT we tap into certain point on our head, body and
hands while concentrating on our negative feelings to unload our emotional
burdens. This technique that was
developed by an engineer Gary Craig has been in use since 1995. This year Gary and his daughter are making
some modifications in the technique and also EFT had been a technique that was
freely distributed although there were official trainings and certifications.
It seems they want to have more control on the technique and therefore creating
new certifications to be an “official” practitioner.
I believe
in trainings. I must have attended close
to a hundred including the previous official certification trainings of the
Emotional Freedom Technique. I also understand the need to be able to live and survive
as a teacher and healer, the need to be paid for your efforts and the knowledge
that you created. Gary Craig seems to
experience the negative aspects or sharing information freely. His old websites are not active anymore and www.garythink.com is his new website where he shares
information about EFT. There are free
and purchasable information on this web site.
According to my observation, the “old” EFT techniques are as valid as
they used to be. They work. If you know how to use EFT, I recommend you to
keep on using them. I will share the
additions or changes to EFT that make sense to me in the coming weeks. I believe in finding what works for you and
in keeping using it. That means to try
new approaches, but to trust your heart, to trust your intuition in the healing
method.
Sometimes
my clients ask me if certain healing techniques can be used together. Most of time we can. For example, we can use EFT Emotional Freedom
Technique and use Reiki at the same time to support us during the EFT
process. Or we can use Reiki to help
heal the time in the past we are working with EFT.
Please
never, never use a method that you do not feel comfortable with. Of course, I am not saying you to give in to
your fears of change. Because sometimes
we are afraid of the good that awaits us as well. This is surely not what I am talking
about. I have seen many people who are
afraid to physically heal because they have grown so familiar to the life as
the “sick person”, they do not know what to do as a person who is not sick
anymore. Many of them realize that
sickness is how they have learned to say no without having to say no. It is unbelievable how so many people use
illnesses as an excuse to say no.
It
seems very hard to say no, just to say say. It seems very hard to accept that
we have the right to say no. Looking
back at my own life, my life would have been easier if I had been able to say
no a little more. I am still learning.
Saying no is not a rejection, saying no is not about being selfish. Saying no when we really want to and need to
say no, is being honest. Saying no, or not choosing a reply out of obligation, when
I cannot seem to say yes is listening to the universe. It is listening to the genuine
voice inside. Saying no is as good as
saying yes. This can be liberating for
us as well as the people around us. Who
knows if agreeing with the desires of others will be for their benefit?
...
May love
and light always be with you.
Zeynep
Affirmation
of the Week, From Louise Hay:
“ I love my
heart.
My heart
lovingly carries joy throughout my body, nourishing the cells. Joyous new ideas
are now circulating freely within me. I
am the joy of life, expressing and receiving.
I now choose thoughts that create an ever-joyous now. It is safe to be
alive at every age. I radiate love in
every direction, and my whole life is a joy.
I love with my heart. I love and
appreciate my beautiful heart!”
